What??? Am I really suggesting that your Critical Inner Judge can be a friend instead of a foe? For many, the Inner Judge is a troublesome part of self who launches inner attacks that make you feel ashamed, guilty or deficient in some way. So, how could that critical angry-sounding Inner Judge possibly become a...Read More

The answer according to most psychologists is: “It depends!” I know, that is a very unsatisfying response, so let’s dig a little deeper. If you loathe yourself, it will be very difficult to really love another. It is hard to mask self-hatred. It gets in the way of expressing loving feelings and in the way...Read More

Digging into the Roots of Success In 2004, our startup team of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Trainers and Psychologists analyzed why some individuals were highly successful and emotionally positive, while others with similar education and experience were not. Our exploration eventually enabled us to teach others to master 8 Key Abilities that transform lives from ordinary to...Read More

What does your brand of Overwhelm look like for you? This time of year, overwhelm runs rampant. The pressure of holiday gifting, parties, family, friends, spending, and work can spiral out of control. Perhaps you worry over Covid, flu and RSV, or needing to prod your kids to finish school work and college applications. If...Read More

And how does NLP Factor into the Extraordinary Self® Program? Did you ever wonder why some people seem stuck in their lives, while others are thriving? Why do these thriving individuals reach outcome after outcome as they move forward in time? Back in the 60s, two men, Richard Bandler and John Grinder (along with Judith...Read More

Insights from Dr. Diane Kramer, a Relationship Therapist for 35 years, and Co-Founder of Extraordinary Self Online e-Courses Ending a long relationship is not an easy process. It can be financially, emotionally and physically gut wrenching, even if you are the one wanting out. Do you have to go? It depends. Sometimes yes and sometimes...Read More

When I think of all the Relationships I have helped over the years, one aspect stands out more than any other — the impact of stress! The stress factor often differentiates good, successful relationships from those that need a lot of help. Why is Stress, or better yet, your Stress level, such a big factor...Read More

How Change Happened I dashed their individual hopes, and began to point out their Vicious Cycle to them. Within a few sessions, they each began to recognize and say to each other: There is the Vicious Cycle again. We got triggered. Let’s STOP! Once they each calmed down, they learned two important things: (1) To...Read More