Is it easier to love someone else – or yourself?For me, I found it much easier to love someone else – or did I? Actually, when I was young I longed to love another and never thought about me. I guess I believed deep down that if someone loved me and I loved them, I...Read More

Do you want to move into a world where “Suffering is Optional” and you really get what you want in your life? With a bit of learning and unlearning, you can enjoy your best life. relationships and career. In this article, we lay out strategies and beliefs that are crucial for reinventing your reality and...Read More

Wondering how you’ll get through it? In having helped so many go through relationship struggles, breakup and divorce, we, Dr. Diane and Donna, offer you our advice for How To Get Over a Breakup. Everyone is different, of course. However, in our practice, those suffering from relationship breakup fall into two general categories: 1. Still...Read More

When will the pain stop so I will feel better? That’s a question so many have asked my partner, Donna, and I over the years, while helping those suffering the pain of breakup, divorce or toxic relationships. The question also comes from those still stuck in a toxic relationship.Here is what I tell them. We...Read More

Wondering how to get over a breakup?We know it is not easy. We (Donna and Dr. Diane) have been there and done that. We learned how to recover and reinvent ourselves and have taught our methods to thousands – with astonishing success. Now we’re ready to share those methods with you when we present our...Read More

Reinventing you? Are you up for it? If you could reinvent you, what would you choose to change? Surprisingly, or unsurprisingly, most people say the same thing. They want to feel really good almost all the time. They want nurturing, loving relationships in which their needs are met. They want great health. They want a delicious...Read More

Trying to Decide about a Divorce?Welcome – I am guessing that you are reading this because you are in the in-between stage, meaning that you haven’t braved the divorce barrier to get to the other side.Maybe this article will help. But why me? What gives me the right to say I am an expert? First,...Read More

Like many of you, I failed at one relationship after another – until I went through a life-changing personal transformation and found the perfect one for me. We have been happy with each other for almost 35 years. Here is my story:  On the outside, I looked like I was doing fine. A psychologist with...Read More

Extraordinary Self Key Ability #2By Dr. DianeLast week‘s blog focused on Extraordinary Self Key Ability #1, Unshakeable Self-Worth – that core foundation of feeling good about you no matter what. It takes time, skills and practice to be able to rest in that state continually. You may need to learn to be more mindful, accepting...Read More

Extraordinary Self Key Ability #1Low, or even fluctuating, Self-Worth takes an incredible toll on our lives. You have low self-worth if you are suffering from feelings of inadequacy, self-criticism, guilt, shame, poor relationships, anxiety – or a sense of not being enough and not having enough.The good news is that you can change low self-worth...Read More

Have you left a toxic relationship through breakup or divorce – or are you thinking of leaving? In most cases, leaving opens you to new problems on top of the old – pain, disorientation, frustration, confusion, lack of direction, emptiness, sadness, even full mourning.Recovery means moving out of all that pain!In Recovery, as you move...Read More

“How can I get over this breakup when I am so broken? asked one of our clients. She had hired me (Dr. Diane) as her breakup and divorce coach to help her reinvent her life after her most recent marital breakup.Holly’s StoryHolly (not her real name) had already been married twice. She had gone through...Read More

Planning for SuccessNew Year’s Day has come and gone. Valentine’s Day is already on the way. Many people set yearly intentions and then forget them by February. But, you don’t need to! The good news is that we at Extraordinary Self Programs can help you plan and reach your Success Goals whenever you are ready...Read More