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Why do we keep having the same fight?

A plate left on the counter. You hear the tone in his voice before he says a word. You feel it in your chest a full second before you answer. You already know how this one ends.

After fifty years as a psychologist and marriage counselor, I can tell you something about that fight. It is not that you fight too much. It is that the same fight never ends. It changes subject and comes back.

I call it the Couple’s Vicious Cycle. This book is not about changing your partner. It shows you how to find your own part in the cycle and change that part. You can do that whether or not your partner ever joins you.

Toward an Extraordinary Relationship: How to Break Painful Patterns, Stay True to Yourself and Create Wiser Love. By Dr. Diane Ernstoff Kramer, Psychologist and Marriage Counselor. Kindle and paperback.

Chapter 1 takes about twenty minutes to read. You will meet a couple whose fight looks a lot like yours, and you will see why it keeps coming back. The book itself is coming soon. Readers who have Chapter 1 will be the first to hear.

Start with the book. Then, if you want more, there is more.

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1. Read the book

Ten short chapters. Each one ends with a few journal questions. You take one real moment from your relationship, the one you can picture right now, and carry it through the whole book. By the end, you can see the pattern, name your part, and choose differently.

 

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2. Join the free group

A private Facebook group for readers of the book and learners in any of the courses. One theme a week. One short question a day. Bring your own situation whenever you like. I read everything, and I answer most days. It is free.

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3. Take the course, when you are ready for more.

The course follows the same path as the book, one screen at a time. You hear real conversations. You practice with guided audio and exercises. You write in a private journal that only you can see. Already have the book? The last page tells you where to start.

Three Components of Each Extraordinary Self Program

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Create Your Personal Blueprint for Change

Part 1. Begin your Extraordinary Self Reinvention with the Extraordinary Self Blueprint for Change. Clarify your intentions in your chosen area. Explore what holds you back, and start to define what changes will get you where you want to go. Then, use your personal Blueprint for Change as a reference tool while you make your changes. Your custom blueprint, along with other Program resources, will help you stay on track.

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Start Your Changes with Self-Study e-Courses

Part 2. Start your changes! Get unstuck as you change inside. Liberate yourself from what holds you back. Lessen negative thinking, limiting beliefs, and self-defeating behavior. Actualize your intentions as you progress through either our: (1) Energize for Entrepreneurial Success Program; (2) Workforce Wellness Initiative; (3) comprehensive 8 Key Abilities for Your Extraordinary Future Program; or (4) a targeted Program focused on your specific challenge(s).

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Enjoy Live Success Time Coaching Hours with Us

Part 3. Join Extraordinary Self®  Success Time group coaching sessions, each month, to stay motivated, engaged and accountable. We will help you focus on your goals, eliminate obstacles, and move forward. During Success Time, you will review your Blueprint for Change, set next steps, share progress, and get answers to your questions. Success Time is open to all Program registrants. Please stay tuned for upcoming workshops and webinars.

Enjoy Extraordinary Benefits; Develop Competencies

• Build confidence.
• Strengthen self-leadership.
• Lower stress/anxiety.
• Enhance relationships.

• Strengthen planning.
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Improve decisions.
• Improve judgment.
• Communicate better.

• Build emotional resilience.
• Live with purpose.
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Love yourself more.
• Enhance motivation.

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Choose Your Self-Study e-Course Program

Come alive to the more in you! Choose the Program that feels right and speaks to your needs. If you’re not sure which Program is best for you, gain some clarity with our free Self-Assessment. Or feel free to Contact Us.

Ready to live your extraordinary life? Start today!

Our Comprehensive 8 Key Abilities for Your Extraordinary Future Self-Study e-Course Program will help you develop and internalize all eight powerful inner satisfaction and outer success patterns of Extraordinary individuals – as researched by our team.

Our shorter Extraordinary Self Program Self-Study e-Course Programs each focus on helping with specific challenges. 
• Extraordinary Relationships and Win-Win Communication 
• Master Stress in 7 Steps 
• Empower Your Self-Talk 
• Power Up with Self-Confidence and Self-Worth 
• Overcome Self-Defeating Patterns
• Bounce Back with Emotional Resilience

Not sure which e-course program is right for you? Take our complimentary Self-Assessment. And, please check back! We will be opening registration for our new Mindfulness course soon.

Our Award-Winning Learning System

This step-by-step transformation system – first developed in 2006 by Dr. Diane Kramer and a team of Psychologists and NLP trainers – is based on proven principles of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), psychological research, and mindfulness principles.

In its first ten years, our original Program and supportive environment helped thousands to change in significant ways and achieve their success goals – while increasing inner satisfaction and self-nurturing! Now, we, Dr. Diane Kramer and Donna Anselmo, M.S., bring this powerhouse to you — online. Join us!

With role models, deep insights, learning-rich tools, immersive visualizations and guided practice opportunities, our award-winning no-fail proprietary learning system, with its immersive e-courses, leads you to change to Extraordinary at a deeper level inside – while you work toward your desired goals.

Want personal contact? You’ll get it! Our professional coaching team conducts live monthly Success Time for Program  registrants to ensure that you are supported as you practice and internalize your changes.

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Answers to Common Questions

HOW DO I KNOW WHERE TO START?

If you are unsure about what kind of help will get you the results you need, take our complimentary Extraordinary Self Programs Self Assessment. Or sign up for an individual coaching session and we will help you figure out where to start.

WHERE ARE PROGRAMS HELD?

Extraordinary Self® Transformation Programs are offered online. When you sign up for a Program or Programs, you get started with our Blueprint for Success to help you begin to focus on the changes you need to reach the inner and/or outer outcomes you want. Then, you are given access to our proprietary e-Learning portal, where you can engage in your e-Course work at your convenience, 24/7/365.

Our learning strategies were developed and tested during more than a decade of research and testing in-person with individuals and groups, including a college program environment.

Also, as part of your Transformation Program, we invite you to monthly Success Time with us, Donna and Dr. Diane, to stay engaged in your change project and keep moving forward toward your inner and/or outer outcomes.

If you choose our optional Coaching Program, coaching sessions also are conveniently offered online via Zoom, as well as by telephone. You can choose your preferred connection method when you register with us.

WHO DEVELOPED THESE PROGRAMS?

Dr. Diane Kramer, clinical and research psychologist, learning specialist, business developer, coach, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) expert, author and professor emeritus, conceived the idea that the skills and abilities of Extraordinary individuals (those who maintain continual inner self-value and good feelings while reaching Breakthrough Goals) were teachable to others.

In 2004, her team of psychologists, NLP Trainers and business leaders began the work of creating a learning program to teach those Extraordinary skills to others. The team included Dr. Diane Huisinga, Clinical Psychologist; Dee Kinder, NeuroLinguistic Programming Trainer; and Karen Bading, M.S.W. NeuroLinguistic Programming Trainer. David Gordon, one of the first NLP Trainers, mentored the start of the project. 

In 2006, Donna Anselmo, an award-winning journalist, communicator, trainer, and business leader joined the team.

Across two decades, we continuously improved the Program based on feedback and results from participants. The evidence speaks for itself. Our group and individual Programs resulted in a staggering 96% of Program participants reporting lasting success. Check out our testimonials for more information.

The Extraordinary Self Program was later re-developed by Dr. Kramer and Donna Anselmo, M.S. for online access 24/7/365 access. For more information about our founders, see details about our Leadership Team.

WHAT DO PROGRAMS COST?

Extraordinary Self® Programs online are reasonably priced to deliver exceptional value. Structured for multi-modal sensory learning, based on proven principles of psychology, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and the neurosciences, the e-Course component of our Programs is delivered on our award-winning e-learning platform.

Our comprehensive 8 Key Abilities for Your Extraordinary Future Program’s e-Course teaches 8 very important abilities for ongoing success and satisfaction. They form the integrated set of abilities that Extraordinary individuals use to maintain ongoing inner satisfaction and good feelings while achieving success after success. This Program begins with our Blueprint for Change and also includes our monthly group Success Time hour exclusively for registrants. ($397)

Extraordinary Self Resource Programs targeting specific problem areas are designed to help you reach your desired outcomes in the area(s) you choose. As with our 8 Key Abilities for Your Extraordinary Future Program, these shorter Programs’ e-Courses help you reach and maintain ongoing inner satisfaction and good feelings while achieving success after success. These Programs begin with our Blueprint for Success and also include our monthly group Success Time hour exclusively for registrants. ($179 each)
• Master Stress in 7 Steps 
• Overcome Self-Defeating Patterns
• Bounce Back with Emotional Resilience
• Power Up for Self-Confidence and Self-Worth
• Empower Your Self-Talk
• Extraordinary Relationships and Win/Win Communication

Browse our Catalog to learn more about the content and cost of our Coaching Programs.

Tune into our social media and website pages for special offers. Coupon offers and general pricing are subject to change at our discretion.

If you wish to enhance your income, explore our Extraordinary Self Referral Partner (Affiliate) Program, through which you can earn commission each time one of your referrals signs up.

WHY SHOULD I CHOOSE THESE PROGRAMS?

Extraordinary Self Programs help build a powerful mindset and integrity-based success-oriented behaviors. Program graduates learn how to increase and sustain motivation, so they stop giving up on goals and begin reaching them consistently. In addition, these graduates report far more positive feelings, increased happiness and even enhanced joy in life. They come more alive.

Our Programs are proven to accelerate change so you leave behind failures, hurts and frustrations – while empowering yourself for more success and satisfaction.

E-Course Programs and optional coaching provide insights to specific issues. They help enhance your own sense of self-value and inner resilience, so you maintain positive feelings about yourself, no matter what happens outside you.

In addition, our planning framework, exercises, visualizations, learning tools, and optional personal coaching ensure that you are led to practice and internalize changes that lead to your chosen Goals.

WHAT DO PROGRAMS INCLUDE?

Built for your success, every learning-rich Extraordinary Self® Self-Study e-Course Program includes:

• Your Blueprint for Change to help you focus on the inner and/or outer Goal you want to go for and the changes you need to make to get there.
• An in-depth e-Course with multiple interactive components that will help you engage in the change process and stay motivated.
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Monthly Live Success Time with us, Dr. Diane and Donna, to keep you focused on your Goal and the changes you need to make to get there.
• Deep insights to help you understand the reasons behind the changes you are making and how to make them stick.
• Instruction with practice exercises to reinforce what you are learning.
• Proprietary learning tools to concretize your new skills.
• Interactive visualizations to help you make permanent change.
• A password-protected online journal. Writing is proven to help cement learning by engaging you in another sensory experience. Keep track of your shifting awareness, thoughts, benefits and changes as you begin reinventing your mind and using your new skills to transform your life. Look back on your progress and write about your intentions for your Extraordinary future.
• An online Goals/Action Planning tool to help you plan, track and achieve the goals you set.
• Learning Checks and Feedback loops to facilitate success.
• Weekly e-coaching messages to keep you on track.
• Success Time for monthly live group coaching. 

Ready to roll? Choose an Extraordinary Self Program now.

WHAT RESULTS CAN I EXPECT?

We can help you activate your Extraordinary Self, build your extraordinary mindset, and establish a framework for the extraordinary life you want. Results will depend on your goals and the amount of effort you put in. If you wish to change, and follow our transformation methods, it is very possible that you will enjoy results, such as:
• Gain the inner strength and confidence you need to thrive in relationships, life and work.
• Experience more joy and happiness in your life.
• Lessen negative feelings and thoughts.
• Gain clarity, motivate yourself and live and work with purpose.
• Eliminate Self-Doubts and love yourself more.
• Develop a repeatable framework for success.
• Improve planning.
• Increase productivity.
• Lower stress.
• Make decisions with less anxiety.
• Enhance judgment.
• Improve communication.
• Build stronger win/win relationships.

As with all Goals in life, to achieve those results, you will need to do the work. But is it really work? When you are passionate – because it is what you want and need – it is more pleasure than work. That said, the framework we provide is highly effective in helping people make the inner and outer changes they desire in their lives. We want that for you! You deserve that!

WHAT IF I NEED MORE HELP?

We offer the option of personal coaching with each of our Extraordinary Self® Self-Study e-Course Programs. Coaching provides you with an accelerated path to “transformation.” When you sign up for personal coaching, we meet with you via computer or phone; first, we help you select the best starting point. We then work with you to further your changes as you work through the Extraordinary Self Program or Programs we select together. During the Coaching sessions, we help reinforce and troubleshoot your changes.

We also offer Success Time sessions with us, Donna and Dr. Diane, which are interactive group sessions held online via Zoom. Success Time hours are exclusively open to registered learners and coaching clients.

The purpose of Success Time is to empower you to “stay on your change track” as you reach for the inner and/or outer outcomes you are seeking. We keep you engaged and moving forward with Goals and Action Steps plus answer your questions and help you troubleshoot whenever you get stuck. We provide Learners with Success Time scheduling information and a meeting link upon Program registration.

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