EMPOWER YOURSELF WITH CONFIDENCE.
ENHANCE SELF-WORTH, SELF-LOVE AND SELF RESPECT.
The kind of confidence that stays
There are two kinds of confidence. One rises and falls with your latest result: a good day and you feel fine, a bad day and you feel worthless. The other kind stays steady.
This course builds the steady kind: a sense of your own worth that holds when you fail, when someone is displeased with you, and when you are alone with your own opinion of yourself.
What you will be able to do
By the end of this course you will have a sense of your own worth that stays steady on the bad days as well as the good ones. You will not need the last result, or the last compliment, to feel okay about yourself.
You will try things you have been avoiding, take criticism and rejection without collapsing, speak up when it matters, and stop waiting for someone else to tell you that you are okay. You will know it yourself.
Who this course is for
This course is for you if you feel you do not deserve love or success, if you blame yourself first when anything goes wrong, or if you avoid trying because failing would only confirm what you already fear about yourself.
It is also for you if you are good at your work and still feel like a fraud, or if a single critical remark can undo a week of feeling fine.
What you will learn
To challenge the beliefs about your own worth that you have carried since childhood, and to build new ones. To step back from negative thoughts and feelings about yourself instead of believing them.
To create an anchor, a way to bring back the feeling of being at your best whenever you need it. To catalogue your successes and recognize your strengths, so that the evidence for your worth is in front of you.
To build the support you need from other people, to go for a goal that matters to you, and to quiet self-criticism and handle rejection without falling apart.
How the course works
The course is self-paced and online, and you can use it on a computer, a tablet, or a phone. You start when you like, stop when you like, and pick up where you left off.
Every lesson has the same shape. It tells you what you will learn. It teaches one thing, with real people and real conversations. It asks you to write, in your own private journal. You listen to a guided audio visualization, which is where the new response gets practiced in your body, not only understood in your head.
Then the lesson sends you back into your life with an Action Goal: one thing to do before you return. When you come back, the next lesson asks how it went. That is how what you learn on the screen turns into what you do in your kitchen, your office, and your own head.
Most lessons take about an hour, and most people do one or two a week. (Confirm.)
What the lessons cover
- Tool 1: 4-2-4-2 breathing
- Meet Beverly, the course role model
- Challenging your beliefs about your own worth
- Tool 2: the beliefs, thoughts, and feelings of high self-worth
- Tool 3: your Extraordinary Self anchor
- Tool 4: catalogue your successes
- Tool 5: recognize your strengths
- Tool 6: build your support
- Tool 7: go for a goal
- Practice, practice, practice
What is inside
Ten lessons, 131 interactive screens, and seven guided audio visualizations, with real-life examples, practice exercises, and workbook pages. An Action Goal at the end of every lesson and an accountability check at the start of the next. Available any time, on any device.
Every course also includes your own Blueprint for Change, a private online journal that only you can see, workbook pages, learning checks and feedback as you go, and the e-book Become Your Own Superhero with Liberating Beliefs.
Live group support
Every learner is welcome in our private Facebook group, Toward an Extraordinary Relationship, open to readers of the book and to everyone enrolled in an Extraordinary Self course.
Each week has one theme and one short question a day, and you can bring your own situation any time. Dr. Diane reads everything and answers most days. Lorraine, who moderates the group, has done this work herself and will be in the conversation with you.
About Dr. Diane
Dr. Diane Ernstoff Kramer, Ph.D., is a psychologist and marriage counselor with fifty years of practice, Professor Emeritus in the State University of New York system, and the founder of Extraordinary Self Programs. She is the author of Toward an Extraordinary Relationship.
She and her late husband Fred built the learning platform these courses run on with the help of Donna Anselmo, Rachel Hazan and Grant Larimer. Dr. Diane wrote the courses herself. They draw on her fifty years of practice, on psychological research, and on NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the study of how people who do something well actually do it, so that others can learn it).
Our guarantee
If the course is not what you need, we want to know, and we will make it right. Every course is covered by our satisfaction guarantee; see the Satisfaction Guarantee page for details.
You are okay. This course is where you learn to know it.
