And how does NLP Factor into the Extraordinary Self® Program?
Did you ever wonder why some people seem stuck in their lives, while others are thriving? Why do these thriving individuals reach outcome after outcome as they move forward in time?
Back in the 60s, two men, Richard Bandler and John Grinder (along with Judith DeLozier, Leslie Bandler LeBeau and Robert Dilts) in Santa Cruz, California investigated just that. They were determined to find out why some people consistently reach the outcomes they want and others don’t. Their research and findings led to the birth of NLP aka Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a popular strategy for influencing change by modeling the success patterns of others – based, in part, on how the mind/brain processes language.
Richard and John chose a series of extraordinary people to study – including Milton Erikson, famed hypnotherapist, who learned to change even difficult people; and Virginia Satir, renowned family therapist, who learned how to bring whole families to higher levels of fulfillment and satisfaction.
How did they do that?
Richard and John asked themselves: How do these extraordinary individuals achieve their targeted outcomes again and again? These fathers of NLP studied the repeating patterns of their extraordinary models Erikson and Satir, among others.
They studied their external behaviors including body language and facial expression. They studied their language patterns. The external patterns they observed led them to hypothesize about inner patterns – belief systems, value structures, stress levels and thought processes, including self-talk.
Armed with all these patterns to model, Richard and John began to change themselves and match to their extraordinary role models. They modeled the external behavior, language patterns and inner structure of those they were studying. They kept modifying themselves until they could replicate the outcomes of their role models, and they themselves became as extraordinary as those they studied.
NLP is a strategy for identifying, modeling and training patterns of excellence
Finally, they had a template and system to train others! John and Richard modeled and taught patterns of excellence, as well as patterns of change that led to patterns of excellence. And, they taught how to identify patterns that were self-defeating. So, NLP became a strategy – first, identify your self-defeating or non-effective patterns; then use modeled change methods, so you change inside and out as you model patterns of excellence.
I remember the first training I participated in, run by John Grinder, in a Manhattan hotel on Central Park South. John drilled us over and over in detaching from internal bad feelings and self-defeating patterns – an important change pattern of extraordinary people.
He then taught us to change belief patterns, set an outcome and go for it – learning step-by-step. His mantra: “There is no failure, only feedback” (based on what you learn either works, or doesn’t). Feedback guides you to something you still need to learn in order to succeed.
Based on early success, NLP Training Programs spread throughout the world, still going strong in 2022. All kinds of ‘patterns of excellence’ have been modeled in hundreds of fields of endeavor.
NLP and the Extraordinary Self® Program
I, myself, went to NLP Trainings for more than 20 years, including Practitioner, Master Practitioner, Advanced Master Practitioner, Hypnosis, Metaphor, Modeling, Emotional and Healthcare Training, and Patterns of Genius. In the 1970’s, my current partner, Donna Anselmo, had directed the New York Hypnosis Center, using similar methods with clients seeking to transform negative, self-defeating patterns so they would achieve better outcomes in life, relationships and careers.
How were all these trainings useful to us, personally? Over time, I reached outcome after outcome, including my dream husband, a house on the water, multiple successful businesses, artistic and design success, and my dream partner in the Extraordinary Self Reinvention Program, Donna Anselmo. Along the way, I learned to feel consistently good about myself on the inside.
And over the years, we made another dream come true – a series of e-learning Extraordinary Self Reinvention Courses on our proprietary e-learning platform, to help others reach their own dreams of success on the outside by feeling good, believing in self, and “going for it” by changing on the inside, too.
I started the Extraordinary Self Program by assembling a team of NLP Trainers and Psychologists to study the general patterns of extraordinary people. Finding 8 Key Abilities of these extraordinary people, I then developed an award-winning training program to teach these 8 Key Abilities. A later step was to create e-Courses to teach these 8 Key Abilities, lesson by lesson, and course by course, to a wide audience.
Using the same NLP change and learning strategies taught in the Extraordinary Self program, Donna developed the confidence to sell her book to a major publisher and secure an AM broadcast weekly radio show, among other big goals reached.
Using NLP in Extraordinary Self e-Courses for Self-Reinvention
Our Extraordinary Self Reinvention e-Courses use NLP methodology to lead learners to model the excellent patterns of extraordinary people – including feeling good about themselves no matter what is happening externally and transforming any self-defeating pattern into a learning pattern leading to success inside (e.g., learning how to sustain positive feelings and transform self-defeating to liberating beliefs), leading to more external success, as well.
Each Extraordinary Self e-Course is structured to immerse the learner in exercises to change beliefs from limiting to liberating, to set outcomes (goals), and then go for each desired outcome, step-by-step, learning what’s needed at each step, rather than giving up.
To explore these e-Courses and sign up for one, go to extraordinaryself.com/register Keep at it step-by-step and you will soon be achieving your own dream.