Extraordinary Self Key Ability #1
Low, or even fluctuating, Self-Worth takes an incredible toll on our lives. You have low self-worth if you are suffering from feelings of inadequacy, self-criticism, guilt, shame, poor relationships, anxiety – or a sense of not being enough and not having enough.
The good news is that you can change low self-worth to Unshakeable Self-Worth. We will talk about that later. First, let’s explore low self-worth. What does it look like?
Often people with low self-worth don’t feel comfortable out in the world or even within their own skin. They have trouble feeling accepted and part of a group. For some people with low self-worth, there is longing for love, but fear of rejection keeps them distancing from what they truly need. They just don’t go for it. As a result, many interpersonal needs don’t get met.
The same may be true in business or career. With low self-worth, it is easy to hold back and not take that risk. Why? Fear of failure and its consequences, as well as fear of internal feelings of shame and guilt if a goal is not met. In the minds of many, it is better to stay safe in one’s familiar comfort zone than risk failure.
I have had clients come to me and say: “I am not good enough. I can’t get what I want.” They hang back, longing for more, but afraid the door will be slammed in their faces. Often the result is deep frustration and depression.
How do you recognize if you have low self-worth?
- Feelings of emptiness, loneliness, inadequacy
- Negative comparisons with those who are doing better in your eyes
- Reluctance to make decisions or take action due to fear of failure and criticism
- Giving up your own needs and being a pleaser to gain the approval and acceptance you may not even know you crave
- Not standing up for yourself, leading to others taking advantage or manipulating or controlling you
- Not being able to maintain boundaries and say ‘no’ when needed
- Being trapped in negative self-talk loops which make you feel worse and worse
- Stuck in a Vicious Cycle of attack and withdraw with people you are close to
- Afraid to ask for what you really need from others due to fear of rejection and to beliefs that you do not deserve and are not good enough
- Overwhelming need to be gain approval and acceptance as opposed to going for what you really want
If you are suffering from any of these symptoms of Low Self-Worth, the good news is that we each have the power to learn to love ourselves from the inside out and enjoy that Unshakeable Self-Worth. We just have to learn how!
With Unshakeable Self-Worth, you will have more courage to ask for what you want, more confidence to go for what you want, better boundaries to say ‘no’ when needed, and a calmer inner self to handle conflict and difference without blowing up in anger or withdrawing.
Unshakeable Self-Worth will give you an inner core of nurturing feelings that you are good enough and more. Unshakeable Self-Worth creates feelings of self-acceptance that allow you to better withstand life’s arrows. The gift of Unshakeable Self-Worth comes with increased compassion for self and others, the ability to turn lemons into lemonade, and the enhanced appreciation of all life has to offer.
With Unshakeable Self-Worth at your core, your life, relationships, health, and business/career improve. Your entire life sparkles with more love and possibility.
Unshakeable Self-Worth is a gift you may not even know you deserve.
What do you need to do to develop Unshakeable Self-Worth?
You need to:
- Begin to believe it is possible to change. We at Extraordinary Self Programs have helped thousands change, so we know it is doable.
- Commit to giving yourself the time to reflect and explore your inner self and then practice the changes you need to learn to make.
- Learn to identify your inner states of Low Self-Worth and the underling beliefs that accompany those feelings and thoughts.
- Develop the capacity to change those beliefs and the accompanying thoughts and feelings. With practice, your brain will change and your Unshakeable Self-Worth will become a permanent inner resource.
- Learn and practice the skills that will allow you to stay in the state of Unshakeable Self-Worth day in and day out.
What a world it would be if everyone went around with Unshakeable Self-Worth! Imagine less competition, more cooperation. Less vicious fighting, more negotiating. Less selfishness, more compassion and help for all kinds of others. Fewer negative emotions, more joy in the world.
Unshakeable Self-Worth is a gift you deserve. If you feel moved by this blog and would like some help, please contact us at coaches@extraordinaryself.com. To learn more about us, explore www.extraordinaryself.com.
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Dr. Diane (Kramer) is a long-time relationship and business coach, psychologist, divorce mediator, author and marriage counselor. Dr. Diane brings insight, wisdom, warmth, and powerful tools to help her clients recover from toxic and painful relationships with self and/or other – in personal life and business. She teaches the mind set, skill set and action set to feel continually self-loving and powerful while reaching success goals time-after-time in all areas of your life
Donna (Anselmo) M.S., Dr. Diane’s partner, is a long-time business and relationship coach, best-selling author, hypnotherapist, radio personality and branding/marketing specialist who uses wisdom, compassion, insight and powerful tools to lead her clients to recover from toxic and painful relationships with self and/or others. She then leads her clients to build successful lives, step-by-step, in the areas of relationships, career, business and personal life.
Co-founders of the award-winning Extraordinary Self Transformation Programs, Donna and Dr. Diane draw their tools from Psychology, Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming (think Tony Robbins) and MIndfulness Practices.
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