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Like many of you, I failed at one relationship after another – until I went through a life-changing personal transformation and found the perfect one for me. We have been happy with each other for almost 35 years. Here is my story: On the outside, I looked like I was doing fine. A psychologist […]

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7 Ways to Recreate Yourself After Breakup or Divorce

Diane Kramer

BREAKUP AND DIVORCE RECOVERY, RELATIONSHPS, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

breakup and divorce recovery, reinvention, relationships

“How can I recreate or reinvent myself when I am so broken? asked one of our clients. She had hired me as her breakup and divorce coach to help her reinvent her life after her most recent marital breakup. Holly (not her real name) had already been married twice. She had gone through as many […]

Letting Go of Decision Angst to Get Unstuck

Donna Anselmo

SELF-DEFEATING PATTERNS, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

If you’ve ever found yourself struggling with decisions, worry, or anxiety about the future, this article is for you. I was one of those people who convinced myself I needed lots of time and information to make the right decision. I took plenty of time. I was judicious and properly cautious. Mind you, there’s nothing […]

Overcoming the Marital Vicious Cycle

Diane Kramer

RELATIONSHPS, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

For 35 years, I have been treating couples, helping them to find the kind of relationship we all dream of – supportive, trusting, communicative, loving and respectful. It is the relationship where partners really listen to each other and learn to not hurt each other. It is a fantasy for the many and a reality […]

5 Steps to Overcome Self-Defeating Patterns

Diane Kramer

SELF-DEFEATING PATTERNS, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

Extraordinary Self Key Ability #2 By Dr. Diane Last week‘s blog focused on Extraordinary Self Key Ability #1, Unshakeable Self-Worth – that core foundation of feeling good about you no matter what. It takes time, skills and practice to be able to rest in that state continually. You may need to learn to be more […]

From Low or Fluctuating Self-Worth to Unshakeable Self-Worth:

Diane Kramer

SELF WORTH, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

Extraordinary Self Key Ability #1 Low, or even fluctuating, Self-Worth takes an incredible toll on our lives. You have low self-worth if you are suffering from feelings of inadequacy, self-criticism, guilt, shame, poor relationships, anxiety – or a sense of not being enough and not having enough. The good news is that you can change […]

Toxic Relationship Feelings – From Painful to Positive and Powerful!

Diane Kramer

RELATIONSHPS, SELF-MASTERY, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

If you have gone through a painful relationship breakup, saying you are not at your best is probably an understatement. Many say they feel disorganized and confused, anxious about the future and bad about themselves. Does that sound like you? Do you have sleepless nights and stressful days? Or are you sleeping too much? Gaining […]

Shattered? Rebuild Your Fulfilling Life with Self-Love and Confidence

Diane Kramer

RELATIONSHPS, SELF WORTH, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

Have you left a toxic relationship through breakup or divorce – or are you thinking of leaving? In most cases, leaving opens you to new problems on top of the old – pain, disorientation, frustration, confusion, lack of direction, emptiness, sadness, even full mourning. Recovery means moving out of all that pain! In Recovery, as […]

What Me, a Pleaser? Breaking the Vicious Cycle in Relationships

Donna Anselmo

Relationships

relationships, viscious cycle

As a therapist, I hear many stories. By asking questions, I pretty quickly get to the root of relationship issues. Often those issues reflect skills taught in our Extraordinary Self e-Courses. For example … I picked up the phone and listened to Grace on the other end. She started crying and said through her tears, […]

Revelations on Transforming a Broken Relationship

Donna Anselmo

RELATIONSHPS, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

Like many women I’ve known, I thought my marriage was near perfect. Sure we had occasional arguments – usually the same few, in different forms. As a child, I had seen my parents argue and thought arguments were normal. I trusted all was well and that he felt the same abiding love and loyalty for […]

The Power of Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Diane Kramer

The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

What It Is and How It Helps Did you ever wonder why some people seem stuck in their lives and others are thriving? Why do these thriving individuals reach outcome after outcome as they move forward in time? Back in the 60s, two men, Richard Bandler and John Grinder (along with Judith DeLozier, Leslie Bandler […]

Do You Need Extraordinary Results in your Life, Work, or Relationship?

Donna Anselmo

The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

Learn about results achieved by real people and how they did it. You can do it, too! DIANE transformed by embracing self-love. She let go of “conditional” self-approval. Instead of riding the up and down roller coaster of emotions, Diane discovered her own worthiness and began to love herself unconditionally. She now leads a highly […]

Extraordinary Support for Changes You Want in 2023

Diane Kramer

The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

Planning for Success New Year’s Day has come and gone. Valentine’s Day is already on the way. Many people set yearly intentions and then forget them by February. But, you don’t need to! The good news is that we at Extraordinary Self Programs can help you plan and reach your Success Goals whenever you are […]

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Overwhelmed? Here are 7 Ways to Reduce It

Extraordinary Self

The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

What does your brand of Overwhelm look like for you? This time of year, overwhelm runs rampant. The pressure of holiday gifting, parties, family, friends, spending, and work can spiral out of control. Perhaps you worry over Covid, flu and RSV, or needing to prod your kids to finish school work and college applications. If […]

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How the Extraordinary Self® Program Came to Be

Donna Anselmo

The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

In 1969, while a doctoral student in psychology – and contemplating a troubled world – Diane Kramer heard a spiritual inner voice say: “The world will shift in a positive direction with Evolution, Belief Changes and Computers.” That intriguing message set her on a course to help herself and others evolve to a life of consistent good feelings, continual inner satisfaction, and ongoing success.

Finding My Own Passion

Donna Anselmo

The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

finding your passion

Even as an introspective and insightful professional woman, I found it difficult to identify “my why.” I felt such great appetite for so many life endeavors and experiences (pasta included) that I couldn’t home in on that one special connection. I had no doubt that my family’s happiness was my “be all, end all,” but […]

Transforming Inner Resources into Inner Power

Donna Anselmo

BELIEFS, SELF-DEFEATING PATTERNS, SELF-MASTERY, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

inner resources, inner transformation, overcoming self-defeating patterns

Everyone has them. We’re talking about inner resources – the varying personality parts that make us tick. When transformed from hindrances to resources, they make us stronger and more capable. They also help us lead more extraordinary lives. Sadly, not everyone acknowledges these inner parts or has learned to befriend them. Does making friends or […]

My Journey from Ordinary to Extraordinary

Donna Anselmo

The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

“What if you could change the voices in your head that keep you from going for what you really want?”
That really struck a chord with me! Earlier that morning, while visiting conference trade show booths, I spied a business opportunity I wanted to pursue. Having recently developed a course for creating winning B2B sales proposals, I wanted to ask for a meeting with one of the trade show booth vendors.

As I approached that booth, a voice in my head said, “Maybe this isn’t the right time … Maybe it would be rude to talk about my own business when he is trying to showcase his business (which was a university business program). His school paid for the booth, not me … Maybe my business partner would prefer that we discuss it first …

Overcome Your Self-Defeating Patterns

Donna Anselmo

SELF-DEFEATING PATTERNS, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

self-defeating patterns, stress, worry

Embracing New Skills Unlocks Your Potential Wonder why you’ve been stuck in the same old, same old? Have you wanted to dig out, but believe you can’t change? Are you feeling like change is a hopeless cause? Then, you’ll want to meet Beverly, the role model we introduce in Extraordinary Self® courses. Beverly learned how […]

Be Your Own Change Agent

Donna Anselmo

The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

Be the Change You Want to See in Your Life Like you, we’ve been deeply concerned by the impact of Coronavirus on our communities, the health of those we know and love, the jobs we hold, companies we work for, and lifestyles we’ve adopted. Life as we knew it has been disrupted, and the fear […]

Extraordinary Self® Beliefs to Move You Forward

Donna Anselmo

BELIEFS, The Art and Science of Personal and Professional Transformation

success

Adopting a Set of Liberating Beliefs Will Fuel Your Success Extraordinary Selves have learned to rely on a learning mindset. They figure out what information and resources they need to succeed, then they take the steps needed to get there. The result is more breakthrough outcomes, consistently. What’s a breakthrough outcome? It’s a big result […]