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Welcome! Thank you for visiting us here. We really want to help. We have been through it – and reinvented our worthiness, our relationships, our businesses and our lives. So have a few thousand we call Extraordinary Selves who have gone through our programs.
Toxic relationships, breakups and divorce are not fun. We, Donna and Dr. Diane (Your Extraordinary Self Breakup Coaches) have been there. Wrenching apart hurts. It’s disorienting and heartbreaking to pull away from the lives we have known.
Perhaps you’re suffering sleepless nights and exhausting days. Or are sleeping too much and feeling depressed and depleted. Your mind and body may be wrestling with feelings of anger, anxiety, jealousy, revenge, shame, worthlessness, and/or emptiness. Or perhaps you’re feeling some relief and freedom – even if it’s tinged with sadness and distress over losing what might have been.
If you choose to work with us, you will first learn to heal the emotional suffering from your breakup or divorce. How? Research proves that “Suffering is Optional”. We will teach you how to minimize that suffering step-by-step. You will end up feeling worthy, resilient. confident and powerful.
Then, you will move on to your personal Reinvention Journey! Research shows that if you want different results in your life, you must make inner changes. You will learn to shift the inner limiting beliefs and negative self-talk that have led to your suffering in the first place. You will understand why you got into a dysfunctional relationship – and how to avoid one in the future. You will learn to set boundaries and respond in calm measured ways when triggered into stress reactions or negativity.
And you will discover or strengthen your authentic mission and purpose, personally and professionally. From there, you will learn and apply the skills we teach to reach success after success in life, relationships and business/career.
We offer our online programs in private, group and self-study form for any pocketbook.
We invite you on a year-long journey of self-discovery, healing and reinvention. Below, learn how our Program can help you reinvent yourself after a breakup or divorce – and thrive in extraordinary ways as you move forward. If you don’t want to move forward, then perhaps our programs are not for you. But if you do want to move forward in your life, then consider what delaying your changes will cost you – in terms of life and love.
MODULE ONE
Calm Your Inner Self
WHY
When relationships disintegrate, we experience deeper stress, worry, anxiety and fear of the future. This often leads to feelings of overwhelm and distress, sleepless nights and confusing days. Let’s change that in easy stages. Together, step by step, starting with this empowering introductory module, you will focus on healing and shifting to calm mindful awareness.
OUTCOME HIGHLIGHTS
• Feel heard and understood in terms of what has happened, what you are feeling, and where you are at now.
• Heal and grow calmer, happier and lighter, as you learn to use our stress-lowering breathing exercises and tools for detaching from stress and negativity.
• Gain clarity on what type of goals and changes will help you enjoy more satisfaction and success ahead.
MODULE TWO
Develop Unshakeable Self Worth
WHY
Failed relationships take a toll on our identity, leading us to question our own self-worth. This creates negativity, self-attacks, hopelessness, and lack of energy, purpose and direction. Chronic low self-worth makes it even worse. There is a better way! In this Module you will develop a sense of deep worthiness, self-acceptance and peace of mind. You will breathe new life into the tapestry of you. It’s time to uncover the unshakeable foundation of High Self-Worth.
OUTCOME HIGHLIGHTS
• Build peace of mind and Unshakeable Self-Worth. New Liberating Beliefs will lessen fear and worry.
• Enjoy more self-compassion, self-love, self-confidence and self-trust. Lower anxiety.
• Feel more energetic and less hopeless.
• Start changing patterns with deeper self-regard – for a better life and relationships ahead.
MODULE THREE
Reinvent Yourself – Transform Self-Defeating Patterns
WHY
Self-Defeating Patterns keep you from having the life and wonderful relationship(s) you want. It’s highly likely that repeating patterns, such as over-pleasing, negative self-talk, and self-attacks have led to your current distress. These patterns become so ingrained that they arise automatically – below the level of conscious awareness – and hold you back from creating your dream life and relationship. Now that you have been strengthening self-worth, you are ready for the next stage in your Reinvention Journey! You will change patterns that set you up for failure in the past – and create a new and far more satisfying life and relationship story.
OUTCOME HIGHLIGHTS
• Recognize and detach from Self-Defeating Patterns.
• Detach quickly and effectively from these Self-Defeating Patterns.
• Identify and transform the underlying patterns so you move you forward faster – with more inner power and confidence.
MODULE FOUR
Re-create Your Inner Critic as Your Inner Coach
WHY
Connecting with and managing your Self-Talk by shifting your relationship with your Inner Voice will empower you to be the person you are set on becoming. Now that you’re experiencing higher self-worth and less distress through your recent changes, the next stage is learning to let go of shame, guilt, self-blame, and self-attacks. Exploring and countering the inner sources of negativity, self-doubt and self-attacks is empowering. Your inner voice will become supportive and helpful. And good feelings will follow.
OUTCOME HIGHLIGHTS
• Develop more confidence as you transform and shift the roles, inner voices, and behaviors of your Inner Judge and Obstacle Parts.
• Empower your inner core so you no longer beat yourself up or feel hopeless.
• Let go of shame, guilt and fear of failure, criticism or rejection as you empower yourself with strong new inner resources.
MODULE FIVE
Explore and Evolve Your Vision, Values and Mission
WHY
It’s not easy to get what you want when you don’t really know what that is or how to get it. This Module will change that! Gain clarity and focus as you explore hidden facets of you, and connect more deeply with your authentic self and desires.
OUTCOME HIGHLIGHTS
• Gain clarity about your evolving self-concept.
• Identify your set of personal values and use them to create a vision for your positive future.
• Become more intentional and act with purpose.
• Refine your authentic personal and/or professional missions, which will act as beacons for your future direction.
MODULE SIX
Step Into Your Success
WHY
Imagine you are standing in your own power, influencing others and getting your needs met – faster and more effectively than ever. You’re almost there! We will help you plan your new future and support you in getting there step by step. Our extraordinary goal-getting process will help ensure that you break through to a new level of success without feeling confused or overwhelmed.
OUTCOME HIGHLIGHTS
• Understand how to take action you never thought possible for results you never knew how to get!
• Confidently move forward with purpose to reach goals that you may not even have believed you deserved in the past.
• Gain the non-stop confidence you’ve needed as you enjoy extraordinary results, time and time again!
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MODULE SEVEN
Reinvent Your Life – Own Your Own Future
WHY
Getting to your positive, empowered future means recognizing your part in past feelings, life choices, decisions, and relationships – without beating yourself up. In this Module, we enhance your “response ability” for re-creating the life and future relationships you want. This includes your relationship with you.
OUTCOME HIGHLIGHTS
• See and acknowledge that decisions you made in the past were based on who you were back then, and learn not to beat yourself up about them.
• Truly master the ability to shift out of old automatic habits of blame, shame, guilt and self-attacks – as you take more responsibility for your feelings, decisions, and actions.
• Feel more courageous, capable and confident about going for the future you want.
We provide compassionate, non-judgmental
support through breakups and divorce.
Are you ready to reinvent yourself and live a life you love?
Our Reinvention Programs will help you move into a life with more feelings of worthiness and self-love. We will help you create a safe inner space. This resilient space of inner peace will become the foundation for low-stress success in all your pursuits.
Join the thousands of Extraordinary Selves who live lives of self-love and self-respect. As you do, you will learn to maintain boundaries, go for your dreams and reach the success you may not yet believe you deserve.
Dr. Diane’s Story — After two painful divorces and many failed relationships, I fell into the pit of despair, feeling hopeless and worthless and yet longing for love. I could hardly get out of bed in the morning and lay there, pitying myself and feeling the anxiety of no one in my future. I heard my critical inner judge berating me with: ”There is something wrong with you. You are worthless. No one whom you want will ever want you.”
Laying there, some part of me refused to give up. This part said: “Figure out the problem and solve it! You are not stupid.” Realizing that I had to discover why I was failing again and again, I went to therapy, coaching and self-development programs to discover what was causing my failure. Read more >
Donna’s Reinvention Story — Like many women I’ve known, I thought my marriage was near perfect. Sure we had occasional arguments – usually the same few, in different forms. As a child, I had seen my parents argue and thought arguments were normal. I trusted all was well and that he felt the same abiding love and loyalty for me that I did for him. So, I was beyond shocked when I discovered an inconvenient truth. He didn’t feel the same way – at least for a time. At one point, he didn’t even know if he wanted to stay together.
Realizing that, I felt heartbroken. I drifted through cycles of denial, anger, hurt, tears, emptiness, and depletion. In my despair, I realized that it’s not only the heart that breaks when you feel betrayed. It’s your spirit, your sass, and your essential life force. No longer confident in my own judgment, I castigated myself for having missed “the signs.” The more I beat myself up, the more I believed I would never feel good again. And deep down, I missed my former self and my former life. Read more >
