DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN GOOD FEELINGS
WITH EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE!
Feel what you feel, pause, and choose
Anxiety, anger, and sadness are not the problem. Being run by them is. Resilience is the ability to feel what you feel, pause, and then choose what you do next.
This course teaches that pause, and it builds the new habits that make the pause easier each time.
What you will be able to do
By the end of this course you will still have feelings, but they will not run you. You will feel the anger, the anxiety, or the sadness, pause, and choose what to do next, instead of doing what the feeling tells you to do.
You will come back to steady faster each time, so that hours lost to a bad mood become minutes. The people around you will get a steadier you, and you will get your days back.
Who this course is for
This course is for you if your feelings arrive fast and stay long, if you lose hours or days to a bad mood, or if you want to be steadier for the people around you.
It is also for you if you have been told you are “too sensitive” and you are tired of hearing it. Sensitivity is not the problem. What you do in the first minute after a feeling hits is, and that can be learned.
What you will learn
To understand where your strongest negative feelings come from. To picture the life you want, with your emotions working for you instead of against you. To notice an unhelpful emotional reaction as it starts, and step back from it.
To put a pause between what happens and how you react, so there is room to choose. To shift the Limiting Beliefs that keep the painful feelings coming, the old conclusions about yourself that you have carried since childhood.
To practice new emotional habits until steadiness becomes your normal.
How the course works
The course is self-paced and online, and you can use it on a computer, a tablet, or a phone. You start when you like, stop when you like, and pick up where you left off.
Every lesson has the same shape. It tells you what you will learn. It teaches one thing, with real people and real conversations. It asks you to write, in your own private journal. You listen to a guided audio visualization, which is where the new response gets practiced in your body, not only understood in your head.
Then the lesson sends you back into your life with an Action Goal: one thing to do before you return. When you come back, the next lesson asks how it went. That is how what you learn on the screen turns into what you do in your kitchen, your office, and your own head.
Most lessons take about an hour, and most people do one or two a week. (Confirm.)
What the lessons cover
- Tool 1: 4-2-4-2 breathing
- Facing your negative emotions
- Tool 2: the big picture, a life with high emotional intelligence
- Tool 3: from Limiting Beliefs to Liberating Beliefs
- Tool 4: identify the details of a negative emotional reaction
- Tool 5: detach from the reaction as it starts
- The emotional resilience workbook
- Practice, practice, practice
What is inside
Eight lessons, 102 interactive screens, and six guided audio visualizations, with real-life examples, practice exercises, and workbook pages. An Action Goal at the end of every lesson and an accountability check at the start of the next. Available any time, on any device.
Every course also includes your own Blueprint for Change, a private online journal that only you can see, workbook pages, learning checks and feedback as you go, and the e-book Become Your Own Superhero with Liberating Beliefs.
Live group support
Every learner is welcome in our private Facebook group, Toward an Extraordinary Relationship, open to readers of the book and to everyone enrolled in an Extraordinary Self course.
Each week has one theme and one short question a day, and you can bring your own situation any time. Dr. Diane reads everything and answers most days. Lorraine, who moderates the group, has done this work herself and will be in the conversation with you.
About Dr. Diane
Dr. Diane Ernstoff Kramer, Ph.D., is a psychologist and marriage counselor with fifty years of practice, Professor Emeritus in the State University of New York system, and the founder of Extraordinary Self Programs. She is the author of Toward an Extraordinary Relationship.
Dr. Diane Ernstoff Kramer, Ph.D., is a psychologist and marriage counselor with fifty years of practice, Professor Emeritus in the State University of New York system, and the founder of Extraordinary Self Programs. She is the author of Toward an Extraordinary Relationship.
She and her late husband Fred built the learning platform these courses run on with the help of Donna Anselmo, Rachel Hazan and Grant Larimer. Dr. Diane wrote the courses herself. They draw on her fifty years of practice, on psychological research, and on NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the study of how people who do something well actually do it, so that others can learn it).
Our guarantee
If the course is not what you need, we want to know, and we will make it right. Every course is covered by our satisfaction guarantee; see the Satisfaction Guarantee page for details.
You will still have feelings. You will stop being ruled by them.
