THINK AND SPEAK WITH INTENTION,
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The voice in your head is yours
Everyone has a voice inside their head. For many of us it is an Inner Judge: it comments, compares, and criticizes all day long, and it never takes a day off.
This course teaches you to hear that voice clearly, to interrupt it, and to replace it with an Inner Coach, a voice that tells you the truth and helps you do what you actually want to do.
What you will be able to do
By the end of this course, the voice in your head will be on your side. You will hear the Inner Judge start, interrupt it, and answer it with an Inner Coach that tells you the truth without the cruelty.
You will make decisions faster and trust them, take chances you have been avoiding, recover from mistakes in hours instead of days, and stop the two-in-the-morning replay. People around you will notice that you are easier on yourself, and that you have more to give them because of it.
Who this course is for
This course is for you if you are harder on yourself than you would ever be on a friend, and if you suspect that all that self-criticism is not making you any better.
It is also for you if you talk yourself out of things, if one mistake can color a whole week, or if you would like to know what it feels like to be on your own side.
What you will learn
To notice your inner voice, and see what it does to your mood and your choices. To catch negative thought patterns as they start, and interrupt them. To see how your beliefs shape what the voice says.
To find the Limiting Beliefs underneath the criticism, the old conclusions about yourself that you have carried since childhood, and replace them with Liberating Beliefs: “I am okay, and I can learn to ___.”
To use self-talk to change how you feel, to get along better with the people in your life, to reach your goals, and to solve problems, because the Judge is no longer running the conversation.
How the course works
The course is self-paced and online, and you can use it on a computer, a tablet, or a phone. You start when you like, stop when you like, and pick up where you left off.
Every lesson has the same shape. It tells you what you will learn. It teaches one thing, with real people and real conversations. It asks you to write, in your own private journal. You listen to a guided audio visualization, which is where the new response gets practiced in your body, not only understood in your head.
Then the lesson sends you back into your life with an Action Goal: one thing to do before you return. When you come back, the next lesson asks how it went. That is how what you learn on the screen turns into what you do in your kitchen, your office, and your own head.
Most lessons take about an hour, and most people do one or two a week. (Confirm.)
What the lessons cover
- Tool 1: 4-2-4-2 breathing
- Tool 2: observe your self-talk, and change it
- The power of self-talk
- How your beliefs shape what the voice says
- Tool 3: use self-talk to change your feelings
- Tool 4: use self-talk for better relationships
- Tool 5: use self-talk to reach your goals
- Tool 6: use self-talk to solve problems and find solutions
What is inside
Eight lessons, 123 interactive screens, and eight guided audio visualizations, with real-life examples, practice exercises, and workbook pages. An Action Goal at the end of every lesson and an accountability check at the start of the next. Available any time, on any device.
Every course also includes your own Blueprint for Change, a private online journal that only you can see, workbook pages, learning checks and feedback as you go, and the e-book Become Your Own Superhero with Liberating Beliefs.
Live group support
Every learner is welcome in our private Facebook group, Toward an Extraordinary Relationship, open to readers of the book and to everyone enrolled in an Extraordinary Self course.
Each week has one theme and one short question a day, and you can bring your own situation any time. Dr. Diane reads everything and answers most days. Lorraine, who moderates the group, has done this work herself and will be in the conversation with you.
Dr. Diane Ernstoff Kramer, Ph.D., is a psychologist and marriage counselor with fifty years of practice, Professor Emeritus in the State University of New York system, and the founder of Extraordinary Self Programs. She is the author of Toward an Extraordinary Relationship.
She and her late husband Fred built the learning platform these courses run on with the help of Donna Anselmo, Rachel Hazan and Grant Larimer. Dr. Diane wrote the courses herself. They draw on her fifty years of practice, on psychological research, and on NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the study of how people who do something well actually do it, so that others can learn it).
Our guarantee
If the course is not what you need, we want to know, and we will make it right. Every course is covered by our satisfaction guarantee; see the Satisfaction Guarantee page for details.
The voice in your head is yours. You can change what it says.
